I've attended a 'Majlis Tahlil' last night located not far from where I lived which was already in the sixth consecutive night. Suffice to say that the location is in the East Coast of Sabah.
I don't know how it is being done in other places but I guess it should not be that too different because it's being done based on the similarity of the religion which is Islam.
Normally, everyone will congregate in the living room or any room spacious enough to accommodate all those present. After having complete reciting the Surah Yassin and the subsequent relevant doas, dinner or light meals will be served to all those present.
Finally before everyone leaves, the host will distribute token of money to everyone present as a show of his appreciation. As usual in any kenduri that I've attended before, I graciously decline to accept. My presence was only to offer prayer to the deceased and nothing more. The meal or refreshment served after the prayer session is already good enough for me.
It saddened me that I was called, although in a metaphorically way - stupid for not accepting the 'sedekah' or token of money from the host. As that person is much senior from me in term of age and family rank, I just kept silence.
There was no anger in me however only tinge of sadness. I had acted in a way which I think was the right thing to do. It may be their custom but I still find it rather strange and hard to adopt.
